Division, Nastiness and Feminism

Herald Sun columnist/ blogger Susie O’Brien received a barrage of abuse on Twitter for offering a different opinion on nude feminism, like that from actress Caitlin Stasey, who set up a site portraying a range of naked women. Ironically, Stasey wasn’t one to take offense and actually invited O’Brien to have chat with her about it when she was back in Australia. Unfortunately, some people seemed to take if the wrong way though.

Seriously, no wonder why so many people treat feminism as a complete joke; because that what it’s become. Feminism doesn’t seem to promote for equality for women anymore. It’s all about trying to make women the same with a lack of diversity. Weren’t feminists suppose to fight for choice, freedom and equality for all women? So why are we turning on each other?

There have been questions in whether young women in particular, need feminism. I’d say, not the way it is. Sure, fight against sexual harassment, sex auk assault, for equal pay for same work, etc, but. An’t we cut the pettiness? Can’t people be a bit more respectful toward each other? Because if young women still feel like they ‘need’ feminism, it’s not going to help if we make it into the ridiculous movement it’s become. Nobody needs that and it’ll end up backfiring on everyone, especially people who feel like they need feminism.

More Double Standards Based on Gender?

Trigger Warning: This post deals with child – sex abuse. Please proceed with precaution if this is triggering for you.

Yesterday, Mamamia columnist Rosie Waterland wrote this scathing article about American ABC’s Barbara Walters doing an interview with Mary – Kay Letourneau and her husband Villi Fualaau on their 10 – year wedding anniversary.

No problem, right? Why the overreaction? It’s a ten – year marriage anniversary.

Answer: back in 1997, Mary – Kay Letourneau, a teacher from Seattle, Washington, was convicted of second degree child rape. Fualaau fathered the daughter that Letourneau became pregnant with while in prison.

Some of the commenters on the post has criticised Waterland for her condemnation of the interview, given it was nearly 20 years ago when the incident took place. Would the same people be saying the same thing if the genders were reversed and the then – child was female and the teacher was male? I honestly think there would be an outcry, even nearly twenty years later if this was the case.

The article went on to say that Falaau had gone on to battle alcoholism in his adult years, a known effect of past child sexual abuse. http://pubs.niaaa.nih.gov/publications/arh25-1/52-57.pdf

So, why the double standard? Is it because of the whole “adolscent male fantasy” that is often associated adolescent boys? Do we still think that women can’t be perpetrators of abuse and males can never be victims?

I’m with Waterland. Yes, it was nearly twenty years ago, but what happened shouldn’t be glorified now as it shouldn’t have been back then. Falaau was victimised. It just happens that somehow, it resulted in a marriage years later. Should he be penalised for what happened? Of course not. Neither should their children. However the origin of the relationship can’t just be ignored either. LIke I said, if the genders were switched, there would still be condemnation of what happened.

We cannot minimise the effect of abuse on a child. And whether it was five years ago or fifty years ago, whether the victim was male or female or anytyhing else, it should NEVER be minimised. Maybe Falaau and Letenau have a good relationship now… or the best it can be given the circumstances. Doesn’t make the origin right.