Enough of mocking Malania Trump

Now that Donald Trump will be the President of the US, apparently, his wife, Malania is fair game.

 

Look, I can understand why people are concerned about Trump. I wrote about this in my post about the #safetypin campaign. But isn’t this racist and sexist? If anyone mocked Hillary like that, or Michelle Obama, there’d be outrage. But because she’s going to be First Lady with Donald Trump as President, it’s OK? I get why Andrew Bolt says “with the Left, it’s not the principle, but the side. If it was any other woman, the chance of this being tolerated would be nil.

 

It makes me think, when it comes to the treatment of women, whether it’s violence, mocking, teasing, etc, I can really see why people treat the Third Wave of Feminism as a complete joke – an unfunny one at that. On one hand, even the slightest offensive thing that’s said about… say Julia Gillard is condemned outright. Now, I argue that some of the treatment she received while she was Prime Minister in 2011 – 2012 –  like broadcaster Alan Jones saying that Gillard’s father “died of shame” only days after he died was appalling. He later apologised. Some of the things Trump said, especially on the tape about women was disgusting. Most people rightly condemned these comments. They were insensitive (on Jones’ part) and downright appalling on President – elect Trump’s part. Yet, there is nothing that I can see on Mamamia or Ravishly – site that’s usually good talking about not just women’s issues but racial diversity as well. Still, nothing. Now I get what Andrew Bolt means when he says: “with so many on the Left, it’s not the principle, but the side”.

 

Women like Mia Freedman try to argue about how important feminism and gender equality is. Well, how about start by treating all women as if they matter? How about condemning all sexism and racism, not just for a few? Otherwise millennials will keep running away from feminism and we’ll just be continued to be painted as nothing more than hypocrites.

Maybe I’m missing something. Have you seen any article, video, etc from a woman’s site condemning the mockery of Melania Trump? If you have, feel free to post the link in the comments section.

 

Harrassment a ‘hate crime’? Is this a good thing?

According to feminist site, Ravishly, police in Nottingham, England are pushing to make street harassment into a hate crime. Sounds good, right? Sexual harassment should be condemned, both socially and legally. But what is sexual harassment? I ask this question because if it’s to be deemed a “hate crime”, then we’ve got to know what’s being outlawed. According to Australian Human Rights Commission, sexual harassment is defined as:

…any unwanted or unwelcome sexual behaviour, which makes a person feel offended, humiliated or intimidated.

(Sounds similar to 18C of the Racial Discrimination Act 1975. I’ll leave that for another blog post on another day).

According to BBC News, the Nottingham Police defines “misogynistic hate crime” as:

incidents against women that are motivated by an attitude of a man towards a woman and includes behaviour targeted towards a woman by a man simply because they are a woman.

The Nottingham Police are even encouraging women to report what they deem to be misogynistic, even if they aren’t technically illegal so they can get support.

 

I applaud the Nottingham Police for making such a strong stand, I really do. Discrimination and harassment should be condemned, as I’ve said. My problem with all this, like 18C under the Racial Discrimination Act here, is that it can be open up to interpretation. I think it’s fair to say that any unwanted touching should be avoided at all times. Intimate touching should definitely avoided, unless it’s in the right place and it’s consented to. Beyond those obvious examples, I feel that other areas may not be so clear cut. What one woman finds, “offensive” and “misogynistic” may not be deemed “offensive” or “misogynistic” to another. Is banter deemed sexual harassment? A man calling a woman a (at least what he sees) as an affectionate term deemed sexual harassment or misogyny?

 

Basically, I wonder whether such a law can be used against someone who didn’t mean any harm and cause collateral damage like the Queensland University of Technology case did to the students and their futures. (I think that whole case was just a mess. Another post for another time on one of my other blogs – maybe). Will such a law, with good intentions, be used to destroy the reputations and futures of people who really don’t deserve it? Will factors like race, age or socioeconomic status be considered if the laws are modified to make all sexual harassment deemed a hate crime? Will men who can afford top lawyers, etc be able to get away with it anyway?

While I’ve been a big fan of anti – discrimination laws since I was in Year Nine, I can see how they can be used and abused, and it’s not always easy for victims to get justice. Also, I think, in fact, sometimes the laws themselves can be used unjustly and cause irreparable damage, both to the alleged “victim” and “perpetrator”. At the very least, terms like “misogyny”, and “offend” should be clearly defined as to protect unsuspecting people of unwarranted accusations of sexism, misogyny or people who are accused of other forms of discrimination.

Wom*n Grow Up!

Apparently some students at a Melbourne university want to replace the ‘E’ and ‘A’ of words like ‘woman and ‘ women. Reason? Probably patriarchy.

For heaven’s sake, grow up!

Seriously, how is this helping any woman, here or abroad? All it’s doing is giving feminism a bad name! Why something so petty? Enough’s enough.

Fight for women’s RIGHTS everywhere. Fight for womenin the Middle East. Fight against violence. Demand better services for those escaping domestic violence (fighting for shelters and whatnot). ENOUGH WITH THE PETTINESS ALREADY! It’s become beyond a joke.

Let’s Fight Real Battles Shall We?

Australian of the Year, David Morrison has warned against using the term “guys” at work in favour of diversity. .

I’m all in favour of gender equality, but really, can we get to a more important issue? I mean, I use the term “guys” heaps. And not always talking to (or about) men either. I find it quite gender – neutral term today.

This is a non – issue in my opinion. Let’s get some discussion on real issues.

If This Is Feminism, Then I’m Not One

If this is feminism today, then I’m not one.

OK, I’ll be fair, apparently this is a form of “militant feminism”. I call it exploiting traumatic events. Or exploiting your body to get into an industry that you want to be a part of, like journalism (an example in the article).

So, to sell a painting, you have to depict rape – even if it’s actually not based on a real event.

And you have to sell your body to become a writer or rehash trauma in public to get published.

Got it. Don’t want any part in it.

 

You can see this “militant feminism” backfiring from a mile away. You can just see this sort of sorrow politics or exploiting trauma as a way to alienate mainstream public from any feminist movement.

Let me make one thing clear (probably should have done that at the start. Better late than never, right?), I’m NOT against women or people of any gender, opening up about past instances of sexual assault. I’m NOT against people creating genuine awareness campaigns to better tackle rape. But frankly, I don’t see this particular brand of “feminism” doing either. If anything – especially if the stories are fabricated, it will only make it harder for rape victims to speak up without the fear of not being believed. That’s why I was critical of the Rolling Stones mess of a story of “Jackie”, a former student of University of Virginia who claimed to be raped, only to have her account of events fall apart days later. Yet, feminist publications, such as Mamamia, lapped it up, even when the allegation didn’t add up.

 

Feminism is supposed to be empowerment, isn’t it? Why is it suddenly (in some cases), become about victim exploitation? Also, if journalism has fallen into that trap as well, then I don’t want any part in it. Award women based on merit, not by how much you can exploit their past or use their sexuality. Make it about merit. That goes for any industry.

Let’s make feminism be about the rights of ALL women again. Make it empowering again, and not about sex or rehashing trauma.

Feminism For Everyone – Where Are The Voices For Minorities?

I was watching “Studio 10” this morning and they were giving away DVDs to the audience of the movie “The Suffragettes”, which is based on the true story of the Suffragettes that demanded women have the right to vote. The protests started in 1897 when Millicent Fawcett formed the “National Unit for Women’s Suffrage”. Her argument was that women, who could be involved in school boards at the time could be trusted to vote. To read more about it, go here.

It made me think about how far women in Western countries have come. Common focuses for feminists now are things like equal pay, paid parental leave and domestic violence. The problem I have is that the voices that are often heard in the media are those who, apart from being women, if you like, are generally quite privileged.  They are: cis, able – bodied, Caucasian and middle/ upper class. I’m not saying that these women don’t face problems. But, because of a lack of representation, other issues are too often ignored or not properly advocated for by feminists in the mainstream media.

Where are the voices for:

  • Aboriginal women – who are victims of domestic violence at a much higher rate than non – Aboriginal women
  • Disabled women, who again, are much more likely to be victims of domestic violence than the general population
  • Women who can’t get employment and live in impoverished conditions, making them more vulnerable to domestic violence
  • What about women who are abused by other women.
  • In the workplace, where is the demand –  not just a “feel good” charity case here and there – that people with a disability aren’t discriminated against by employers, or potential employers
  • The rights of trans – identified women and other gender minorities.
  • Justice for women who have been subjected to violence based on religion or culture, such as FGM, honour killings, etc.

 

True, feminists, such as those who write for blogs like Mamamia, have addressed issues such as domestic violence in same – sex relationships. What I’m saying is that the fight for the rights of women need to extend beyond us – beyond the “average” or “upper – class” Australian. Let’s fight for ALL women’s rights. Frequently. And without political correctness. Saying that domestic violence is a problem in Aboriginal communities does NOT mean that ALL Aboriginal people should be branded as a domestic abuser. Saying that domestic violence is a problem in many same – sex relationships does NOT tarnish the whole LGBTQ+ community.

It’s time we stood and fought for ALL women. All voices need to be able to be heard. No one deserves to suffer anything in silence, regardless of any labels (gender, sexuality, socio – economic status, etc).

Amazing Woman: Why Haven’t We Heard About Her?

I read this article linked to a blog about Malawi woman, Chief Teresa Kachindamoto who has worked tirelessly to fight against under age marriage and campaigned to have the legal marriage age raised to 21. She done this while facing fierce opposition from

Since last year, Malawi law places the marriage age to 18, however, a loophole allows parents of children younger than 18 to marry them off. Kachindamoto has fought within her own tribe and demanded sub – chiefs make an agreement to annul current marriages where the girl was under age. Sub – chiefs who refused were suspended from the tribe.

Currently in Malawi, sexual assault of young girls is rampant, with one in five girls victims of sexual assault. Kachimindoto has also campaigned to have “cleansing ceremonies” for girls to be wiped out. Sub – chiefs have been threatened with expulsion from the role by Kachindamoto if they refuse to comply and end the practice. This practice is particularly concerning due to the high rates of HIV in Malawi.

As if that’s not enough, she also campaigns for education by funding the school fees of the children that she’d rescued from being married while under age.

 

What a powerful woman! Why is it only today that I read about it linked on Andrew Bolt’s blog? Why not Mamamia? Teresa Kachindamoto is inspirational for women and should be heard from!