Melania vs Gigi – what are your thoughts?

Recently, I wrote a post slamming Gigi Hadid for mocking future First Lady Melania Trump. While I still don’t like the idea of anyone being mocked, after reading this article, I’m starting to question what I wrote and how a commenter was right about Michelle Obama and Hillary Clinton.

So, what do you guys think? Should Gigi Hadid apologise for her parody? Has Melania Trump been treated more unfairly than other First Ladies?

Motherhood – you’re OK if you’re one, and OK if you aren’t

Motherhood.

It’s a word that divides and too often, leaves women feeling unnecessarily guilty – whether they are mothers or not. Christine Stoddard of Ravishly has written about the flak she cops from “feminist” friends for wanting children. On the other hand, women like TV personality Kerri Anne Kennerley has copped a lot of flack for being married without children. Everyone only left her alone when she revealed  to Australian Women’s Weekly trouble conceiving and a miscarriage years earlier..

I think society is (slowly) coming to terms about the fact that some women don’t want, or can’t have children. Actresses like Jennifer Aniston are challenging the whole family narrative altogether, claiming that (I guess the obvious that: “we don’t need to be married or mothers to be complete” . Good on her.

 

Also recently, a Fairfax columnist was slammed on “Sky News’, Paul Murray Live after suggesting that women who aren’t mother don’t know what it’s like to run the country. Former Chief of Staff of Tony Abbott, Peter Credlin choked back tears of rage while she condemned the comments. To those who don’t know, Credlin has had a public battle with infertility that came to light in 2014 after Clive Palmer made snide remarks about Credlin being the main beneficiary of former Prime Minister, Tony Abbott’s Paid Parental Leave scheme.

 

I am sick to death of constant evaluations of women based on whether or not they are mothers. Not only is it not anyone’s business whether someone has children or wants children, I think, as seen by the cases of Peta Credlin and Kerry Anne Kennerley, it can further shame and stigmatise women who have trouble conceiving, have suffered miscarriages or, for whatever reason, can’t find a partner to have a baby with. Stop judging women over things that they don’t always have control over or do something that doesn’t fit a certain script that everyone else has written! Women with AND women without children – for whatever reason – deserve to be cut some slack.

 

Written by a woman who’s not a mother.

Feminism and Age

Women’s site, Ravishly, posted an article arguing against the de- sexualisation of older women. While I agree with the sentiment, what struck me was the fact that it’s the age bracket 18 – 24 who are considered “young enough” for marketers, the media, etc. Someone between the ages 18 – 24 is someone who has just passed adolescence!

I guess I’m getting a bit personal here (since I’m 27), but I just find it disheartening that it’s only the late teens/ early 20’s that are considered “young”, especially in the media. Sure, for most people, 18 – 24 are the ages when you leave school, start working, go to Uni or TAFE, move out of home, have already developed a sense of sexuality and relationships, maybe even in long – term relationships. Looking at my friends on Facebook, 25 – 30 seems to be when people are more solid in their lives. They’re married, engaged, or otherwise in long – term relationships. They are, or have been at Uni. I read about one friend last night who just completed a Masters (not sure in what). She’s a couple months younger than me.

Sure this isn’t every body. but I can see a pattern. 25 – 30 age bracket, for a lot of people, is about getting to the point in your life where you have often lived a little bit and, for most people, it’s the next stage. But is it an expiry date? I hope not! I mean, sure, some industries like modelling, thrive on people (especially women), probably under the age of 25. But for the rest of us, well, at least I hope, those who are between the ages of 25 – 30 can still flourish and have opportunities that we can still grab on to.

 

There is some good news for people between 25 – 30 though. According to Mamamia, a “scientific study” revealed that the best ages to get married is between 28 – 32. So, for women my age, relax ladies, there’s still time.